November 28th, 2011 | No Comments »
A Chinese wall is a barrier that separates two or more groups, usually as a means of restricting the flow of information. 

its simple really. 
The girl wants the best of both worlds. 
She wants the lover and the friend. 

Plus she wants intrigue.

The boyfriend is jealous of the relationship with the bestfriend. 
The bestfriend is jealous of the relationship with the boyfriend. 
Each might crave what the other has, but its difference in communication that aggravates the situation to the point that neither party thinks straight. 

She wants secrets
The boyfriend wonders what they talk about…how much she tells him…what he tells her…
See, the girl is emotionally tied to him. 
He worked hard to make it so
But the immediate side-effect of the emotional attachment is censorship…
She doesn’t want to hurt his feelings…so she hides stuff. 
She doesn’t want to argue…so she lets stuff go. 
That refreshing honesty they had when they were just “getting to know each other”?

She wants freedom.

She used to eagerly anticipate phone-calls from the boyfriend. 
But now she sees him all the time. 
Might even live with him. 
She’s used to him.
So instead she vibrates with excitement when the best friend calls. 
She can be loose and free with him. 
She can say anything. 
There are no consequences or repercussions.

Chinese wall n. any barrier that isolates a person or group, as one that hinders a free flow of information

Well there is no free flow of information. 
He wants to know if he’s a substitute for him. 
He wants to know if deep down, he wants her.
I want to know if she wants him. 
He wants to KNOW gaddammit. 

She might be doing it on purpose. 
To keep herself happy.
To keep herself entertained.
To keep him wanting her.
To keep him. 
Funny thing is…it might make him leave. 

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November 27th, 2011 | No Comments »
I want to get married.
Its time.
Isn’t it?
I want to get married. 
Because it seems like a wedding is the only party I cant throw.
Because I want people to stop feeling sorry for me
Or giving me THAT look
Im actually tired of dating…at my age, you’re not really dating anyway, 
Youre just conducting marriage interviews
I want to get married
Because it seems like most companies hate to fire/layoff married men
So its for job security. 
I want to get married
Because just sowing your oats is out
Sowing and reaping (babies) is in
I want to get married
Because in 2012 if you’re not married you’re going to be labeled an abject failure
I want to get married so people will like me.
Married is the new single. 

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November 27th, 2011 | 5 Comments »
Introducing Jack and Jill. 
Jill is sexy. gorgeous. smart. 
She is outgoing and a whirl on the social scene.
She loves men.
But she cannot commit to one. 
The mere idea of being in an “official” relationship makes her feel strangled
So she avoids the girlfriend label like the plague.
Asking her to “go steady” is asking to never hear from her again. 

Jack is also smart
Jack is good looking
Jack is a workaholic 
He does not have much time to dedicate to relationships
When he tries to cultivate one, it’s usually discarded in short order 
His work comes first.
…and second. 

Jack meets Jill. Jack likes Jill.
But he makes no moves because he’s convinced himself that she’d expect/demand a relationship or some sort of commitment
So he backs off
But Jill likes the fact that he doesn’t make the traditional moves
So she gives the green light almost immediately
They want it simple. basic. sexual.
it works well for both of them.
no strings. no fuss. no expectations to muddy the waters.  
most importantly. no commitment. 

Enter Danielle. 
Danielle is friends with Jill. 
like Jill,  she is gorgeous,  free spirited, and fun. 
Danielle and Jill hang out a lot, and one day Jack meets up with them for drinks.
Jack meets Danielle, and Danielle meets Jack.
There’s an instant sexual spark. 
Jill sees it and freaks out. 
Danielle thinks its fun to flirt with Jack and tempt him…
Jack thinks its fun to flirt back and be tempted.
Jill watches their exchange and considers the possibility that they might hook up 
the thought of them hooking up makes her angry and jealous

Does she have a right to be?

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November 25th, 2011 | No Comments »

this blog has been long in the making and has finally been willed into existence.


i should offer up some deep and meaningful explanation of what my blog is and hopes to be someday in the future with a sprinkling of many cliched phrases but truth is that i’d rather get this particular post over with so we can get to the really good stuff.

this blog is for fun. mine. and yours.

lets go.


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