November 4th, 2013

playing-hard-to-get-challenge-acceptedguest post by 3hvndred

The art of seduction is exactly what it says…
an art form.
It is not usually described in this way
not just because it requires a certain degree of expertise
but rather,
because each and every one of us must develop our own style of seduction…
similar to the way artists have their own individual style
such that any art historian worth his or her weight in oil paints can differentiate a Manet from a Monet.

There are so many rules to seduction:
how women are meant to behave…
attitudes they must give off…
for said seduction to take effect.
One of the more prominent rules is the illusion of unavailability.
This works on the simple premise that
we as human beings often want, crave, and deeply desire things we cannot have.
It is a notion that women,
especially in the geographical location I originate from,
have taken on board
and in certain cases taken to the nth degree.

You meet a beautiful woman
and you spend a few days
or weeks
trying to get to know her
in order to,
at some point,
present your intentions…
But weeks and months,
sometimes years,
elapse
without you being able to make your intentions known or entertained.
This frustrates you
so one of two things happen…

you either give up on her, and move on
or you turn up the heat, and make empty promises
with false hopes destined to lead you into a world of temporary forevers
That’s where all the issues come from.

Girls wonder why men are so willing to lie and say anything just to get the girl.
Well it is due in large part to the eye-of-needle sized rings of fire women want men to jump through in order to prove themselves.

I spent 2 years trying to convince this girl that I really did like her
and that I wanted to be with her.
This week we settled on the fact that we are better of as friends
because the relationship,
if it were to start,
would be a long distance one
and I don’t think she or I would want that.
If it didn’t take so long to get to that point
we may have been able to take the relationship to a place strong enough to handle distance.
I’m upset because I feel I’ve lost out on a possible “good thing”.
but honestly,
I don’t know what else I could have said or done
but for 2 years, home girl was grossly unavailable to me
even though she actually was…available.
Now that she is ACTUALLY available,
the reality is that it can’t happen.
Who knows, maybe she simply wasn’t meant to be.

But this is a serious issue because when a guy borrows his friend’s car
and borrows money
and sets up elaborate situations
all for the girl to take him seriously,
he just ditches them as soon as he gets what he wants.
A lot of guys in my situation would lie about their future
and just enjoy her for the time I have left here.
It’s the fear of God and a deservedly grandiose sense of self that prevents me from compromising my character and reputation for the sake of “getting some”.
I’m not saying women must be easy;
all I’m advocating is that women must understand that this is meant to be an ILLUSION.
If you are actually unavailable
then you shouldn’t entertain advances from me for more than five minutes.
If you are available then all you need to do is display slight nonchalance
but as time moves on,
you must observe me and adjust yourself to the “work” I’m putting in.
I don’t require a free and easy ride,
the softly arduous nature adds to the intensity and passion of a relationship.
But the flipside is that you may end up dating a guy who originally just wanted some one-night-fun
but then had to create this world of attraction in order to get you
because trust me some guys are THAT committed to “getting some”.
Soon as he does he’ll be out the door
and you know what the worst part is,
you lose time more than he does…
This is pure fact.
Be smart about seduction;
listen to your instincts…
it is a very powerful force within you so it is necessary to key into it.
As for the guys,
you’ve got to know when to leave it…
going the extra mile is commendable
but 200 extra miles on an empty tank is a tad silly
and she almost starts to lose respect for you…
and even if you eventually get her,
it’s a bad foundation to build a relationship on.
In all things…
Instinct is king.

guest post by 3hvndred

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One Response to “[The Illusion of Unavailability]”

S Says:

instinct vs. Illusion. i think we need more on instinct, I fear all the illusions and subsequent disillusionment may a have degraded rather than developed that sense.

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