August 22nd, 2012

We have all seen or heard this scenario at some point:
Jealous boyfriend of very pretty girl confronts random guy at club/party/street/church and asks some version of:
“Why you staring at my girl?!”
this is the beginning of an exchange that I don’t think should ever happen between men.
It’s absolutely pointless.
I’m not even sure I understand the motives or insecurities behind it…
I mean, if you bought a Ferrari, you wouldn’t mind a circle of gawkers, would you?
(okay, so your hot girlfriend is not a Ferrari but…)
…just because someone is staring appreciatively at your Ferrari does not necessarily mean that they want to steal it…
…yet someone staring appreciatively at your girlfriend means that they would like to steal her?
alright then.
let’s delve into that

If your Ferrari gets stolen, it probably won’t care who drives it.
now your girl? she would probably like to have some say in what man climbs on top of her at night,
especially if that man is not you…
now, if she doesn’t care?
then your girl is a whore,
and you shouldn’t be with her, much less worried about if she gets taken from you.
in fact if she’s a whore she will get taken from you.
it’s the way whores work…

Plain and simple – insecurity is bad
but, male insecurity is awful
your girl is with you,
yet you are deathly afraid of the following categories of males:

the ex boyfriend
yes, before your girlfriend met you, she had sex.
back-breaking, toe curling, animal sex.
and that’s the dude she did it with
she screamed his name and let him slap her ass.
…and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
now she is with you.
by choice.
accept that.
if she decides to go back to him then yes, it does mean she would rather be with him than you.
maybe you didn’t hit it right.
maybe your drama was a bit too much (or not enough)
or
maybe she’s a whore.

one of your close friends
this is the one that baffles me.
you’re dating a girl and you bring her into your circle of friends, then you start worrying that she’s getting too close to one of your friends,
and you’re worried that she’ll break up with you to be with him.
okay…
let’s say that happens.
she breaks up with you and immediately hooks up with your friend
well that’s going to be very awkward right?
hanging out with the same group of friends
and having to watch him with his paws all over your woman
well your internal ball of rage might make the other members of the group uncomfortable
so chances are that you will end up having to leave the group.
you’ve lost your girl and your friends
if they let you walk so easily then were they really your friends?
nah.

in which case it won’t matter anymore, right?
they did you a favor
or
maybe they both get so uncomfortable that they drop out of the group
so you don’t have to deal with them anymore.
she’s gone.
he’s gone.
and maybe that guy was probably never really your friend anyway
or
maybe she’s a whore.

a complete stranger
she’s out with her girlfriends at a club/bar
and you worry that some guy is going to successfully pick her up and take her home…
she works in a male dominated office
and you’re worried that she’s flirting endlessly with that good-looking co-worker of hers
maybe one day while they’re working late…
the guy in the supermarket who’s staring appreciatively at her ass…
the waiter who’s being extra sweet and helpful…
well.
if these types of individuals worry you…
because there’s a very real possibility that all it takes is a few drinks…
some flirting or flattery…
then your girl is a whore
and you should walk away.

the bottom line is that most male insecurities are deeply rooted in the fear that their girlfriend is a whore.
most guys won’t necessarily admit to this…
but that’s where it comes from.

Thing is, like most insecurities there are 2 options
get over yourself, and see how things turn out…
OR
keep doing what you are doing…worrying and acting out
the reality is…
you’ve got no control over her whoring ways…
you can only control how you choose to deal
OR
you could simply not choose a whore…

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One Response to “[Whore of Babylon]”

The Yearning Ninny Says:

mmm…insecurity is damned annoying. I had an ex who was jealous of every guy i spoke to, always questioning me about who i spoke to on a night out, saying that every guy that just so happened to glance in my direction wanted to shag me. Completely ignoring the fact that actually i do in fact have a say on whether or not i get with a guy. That’s one of the (many) reasons i ended it with him, he clearly didn’t trust me (and no, i hadn’t given him any reason not to trust me).

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